Her cheating heart: the good guy and the bad girl

[NolaChick™ {Madam}]

Her cheating heart: the good guy and the bad girl



You know, I am always hearing about how girls love the "bad boy" or the "a******". Apparently, some guys are under the impression that in order to keep a girlfriend, they have to treat them horribly.

Well, this isn't about that. But, I wonder sometimes if some guys like the "bad girl" or the "b****". The girl who wants the world and she wants it now or else it's over.

Tonight I got a call from my friend Adam. I have known him a while and he is a really good guy. Well, a few months ago he discovered that his girlfriend of about two years was cheating on him for a few months. Now, I don't mean a kiss or a dinner in a dark restaurant. I mean that his girlfriend was screwing another guy behind his back. Straight up. Having sex, not feeling bad about it, the whole 9 yards. For months and months without him knowing it. Obviously, Adam was devastated (especially in the manner he found out. The guy she was sleeping with approached her in a bar while Adam was there. Awkward.) So, Adam did what any, I think, intelligent person would do; he dumped her.

Ok, there was more to it than that. They talked and it basically boiled down to the fact that she cheated was because she was trying to push him away because she didn't want to be with him anymore. I guess sleeping with another dude will accomplish that. Or will it?

Time goes on. Months pass and all is well in Adam's world. He's been on a few dates with other girls and all is going well. Not even so much of a mention of the ex. Then, a few days ago he hears from her. She just wants to have a friendly drink. Like a fool, Adam went. Well, to make a long story just a little shorter, he calls me tonight and tells me that he is taking her back and they are going to try to work things out.

Wait...what? Didn't this chick sleep with another dude and lie about it? Isn't the trust broken? Aren't you afraid you will never be able to trust her or that she will do it again? To say I was shocked is an understatement. What gives?

I have never done anything like that and I never would! I would never even think to do something like that and if I did, I would never be able to live with myself. If I am in a relationship, other guys don't exist in my world as far as dating/sex/socialness (it's a word) goes. And yet, I can't get a good guy interested in me to save my life (well, maybe to save my life, but drama is needed right now).

I see this happening all the time. I just don't get it. Don't guys want a girl that doesn't do that stuff?

So, do guys like a bad girl? Do they like the thrill of the fact that she might cheat? Do guys like being treated like crap (the way that some guys think girls like to be treated)? Are things a little more exciting when you can't totally trust the person? Fill me in!

P.S. Adam knows I am writing about this and I have already told him what I think about his whole situation.

P.P.S. Good girls need love, too!

[Mike Duggins]

Men like nice women, but men tend to be overly enthralled by the physical aesthetics of a beautiful woman. Thus, if a woman is a "hottie" (to use the youth vernacular that is prevalent today), she may be able to get away with virtually anything. With most men.

I think relationships may be cyclical, that is to say good guy meets bad girl, good girl meets bad guy, then perhaps eventually the similar parties connect-

One more thought-Americans watch too much TV and too many movies. Men should not assume that because a movie star is a jerk in his latest action flick and the women all love it, that all women are going to follow suit in real life.

[Kitten]

It is true. I see people in that sort of relationship come into my work and the gf is such a b****!!! She is cussing him etc and he just stands there and takes it. Sometimes they even admit it. I feel awkward because Im standing there watching it thinking that I should do something.

Sometimes those "High Maintenance" girls need to have a reality check. If those men are smart they will leave now.

Kitten

[Vivien V]

It's true, Guys indeed do want a "bad" lying cheating girlfriend, In my experience this is always the case.

I just went through the same thing with my friend Kyle and I think he's finally wising up but he went back about 2-3 times before this happened - I just had to be there for him when I was watching this trainwreck which was tough.

[Edson Carlos]

What an idiot...i will elaborate tonight...