Attention that crosses personal boundaries

[Raven Foxx]

What are some of the ways that you as a model use to divert attention that can be inappropriate, overzealous or downright scary?

[Raven Foxx]

Virginia, girl I'm happy to hear you say that. More power to you. I think alot of women have lost their voice when it comes to that.

Virginia D'Vine said:

I never think that it's a good idea to jeopardize your safety but if an a****** in public harasses me, I tell him how it is. I don't ever let any man (or woman for that matter) get away with that s***. Maybe Toronto is a hotspot for sexual harassment but this happens to me on a fairly regular basis...I mean I can't stop at a red light on my bike for some reason, even city workers find it OK to scream lewd comments at me. It's disgusting and repulsive when people think it's okay to do some of the things or say some of the things they do.

Maybe it's immature but if guys approach me in a bar and say things that cross my comfort lines, I make sure that he and everyone else in the bar knows he crossed it. I just don't think anyone should get away with sexual harassment... Just because we as models tend to make a bit more effort in our appearance than the average gal, doesn't mean it's an open invitation for awkward conversation or random ass grabbing. *barf*

[Retrodolls Pinup Photography]

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[Game Photography Edinburgh.]

Personnaly, as a part time photographer. When I'm organising the photoshoot over the phone, I always advise the model to bring a friend with her. Not that I'm a pervert but I have found that it makes for an all round more comfortable and fun shoot for all concerned. Especially if the model is not too experienced and nervous.

[Seanna {Madam}]

I use humor. If I can openly embarrass someone for being inappropriate, I hope that it psychologically messes with them to where they make think twice before doing it again. It's more of a hit to the ego I'm going for!

[Mimi DuBois]

I tend to block people online, although i did have to go as far as getting a restraining order on one guy, who was stalking me on myspace and ended up turning up at my workplace which i had not advertised in any way shape or form on my myspace page. I also have a close friend that is a police man and he's always on the end of the phone if i need him, even if he's at work.
I've had to change my number several times due to threatening phone calls as well, that was scary, i was basically house bound unless i went out with a member of my family or a really trusted friend.
I've also yelled really loudly at people to not "rub themselves" against my back or whatever they are doing at that particular time, to embarrass them and to also let the rest of the place know what they are doing!

[Seanna {Madam}]

Goodness how scary! That's nuts that he found you after being a friend on myspace. I think I tend to be a little naive when it comes to that because I work at a bar with 8 bouncers and just assume nobody would mess with me there. Glad you mentioned this. I may go change some stuff on my profile! Sounds like you shoot for the public humiliation thing too. It's always worked for me and also gets other people alert to what is going on!


Mimi DuBois said:

I tend to block people online, although i did have to go as far as getting a restraining order on one guy, who was stalking me on myspace and ended up turning up at my workplace which i had not advertised in any way shape or form on my myspace page. I also have a close friend that is a police man and he's always on the end of the phone if i need him, even if he's at work.
I've had to change my number several times due to threatening phone calls as well, that was scary, i was basically house bound unless i went out with a member of my family or a really trusted friend.
I've also yelled really loudly at people to not "rub themselves" against my back or whatever they are doing at that particular time, to embarrass them and to also let the rest of the place know what they are doing!

[Edson Carlos]

Mimi, that sucks, and is exactly why we've kept PL information on lockdown from public eyes, even your myspace page when entered is not displayed on your profile. Only official websites. If someone wants to get a hold of you they can do so by sending a message =) If that message is a creep, he gets reported, and the Madams take it over from there, and let me tell you, they don't go easy on em!

[Mimi DuBois]

yeah, i feel safe enough here, still wary about what i put out on the internet obviously, and i more often than not go by mimi on the internet as my real name is so unusual that it is easy to find me.

Daddy Cool said:

Mimi, that sucks, and is exactly why we've kept PL information on lockdown from public eyes, even your myspace page when entered is not displayed on your profile. Only official websites. If someone wants to get a hold of you they can do so by sending a message =) If that message is a creep, he gets reported, and the Madams take it over from there, and let me tell you, they don't go easy on em!

[Soda Shop Sue]

i aggree.. if it is online.... F-Them! DELETE THEM.... no reason to give a reason.... F-THEM! Block there a****...
in real life... like cassie says .... laugh and walk away... GET SOMEBODY TO WALK YOU TO YOUR CAR.... say THANKS bUT NO THANKS!!!!

[Timarie]

Absolutely. If a person doesnt feel it necessary to be respectful to you, why should you be polite to them? This goes for anything- whether someone is being inappropriate, rude or downright mean (as a curvy girl, people sometimes feel its their right to remind me of this fact) they dont deserve your kindness. You have the right to make them as uncomfortable as they've made you. No apologies.

Raven Foxx said:

Virginia, girl I'm happy to hear you say that. More power to you. I think alot of women have lost their voice when it comes to that.

Virginia D'Vine said:

I never think that it's a good idea to jeopardize your safety but if an a****** in public harasses me, I tell him how it is. I don't ever let any man (or woman for that matter) get away with that s***. Maybe Toronto is a hotspot for sexual harassment but this happens to me on a fairly regular basis...I mean I can't stop at a red light on my bike for some reason, even city workers find it OK to scream lewd comments at me. It's disgusting and repulsive when people think it's okay to do some of the things or say some of the things they do.

Maybe it's immature but if guys approach me in a bar and say things that cross my comfort lines, I make sure that he and everyone else in the bar knows he crossed it. I just don't think anyone should get away with sexual harassment... Just because we as models tend to make a bit more effort in our appearance than the average gal, doesn't mean it's an open invitation for awkward conversation or random ass grabbing. *barf*

[Miss Jess {★}]

I have a problem with being "too nice" as my male friends constantly tell me - I'm just not very vocally assertive with people in public. Then again I've never had a stranger attempt to touch me in a blatant way, however in my young and wild days I broke a few noses when guys would get a little too 'rubby/touchy/just passing through' with me - speak softly and carry a big stick, right?

Anyway, my solution for lacking the proper assertiveness when I'm taken by surprise in public is to simply surround myself with people I know (i.e. big dudes). I never, EVER go out by myself to shows or events, unless I'm working an event and I know the people there, etc. Online, I simply block and ignore. I have had people be very creepy, in fact one drove quite a distance from another city when I put a show on my online calendar that I was attending. Needless to say, I just politely said "hi" and kept moving, I didn't want to offer any encouragement. And I stuck by my guy friends the entire evening. Ugh, I do NOT like creepers.