I actually just got this in an email from my Father. I thought it was something pretty important to share with other women.
Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
When this was sent to me, I was told to
forward it to my lady friends, but I forwarded it to most
everyone in my address book. My men friends have female
friends and this Information is too important to miss
someo ne.
Please pass it along and share it with
your children.
A group of rapists and date rapists in
prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential
victim and here are some interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a
potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go
after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle
that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go
after a woman with long hair . Women with short hair are not
common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is
clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is
easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around
specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell
phone, searching through their purse, or doing other
activities while walking because they are off-guard and can
be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack &
rape in the early morning, between 5: 00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
&nbs p; 5) The number one place women are
abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. The
number two: office parking lots/garages. Number three:
public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they
are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another
location where they don't have to worry about getting
caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons
because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a
weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at
all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or
two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth
it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on
women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can
be used from a distance, in their hands
Keys are NOT a deterrent because you have
to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon.
So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth
it.
10) Sev eral defense mechanisms he taught
us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in
a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them
in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it?,
or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is
so cold out here,' 'We're in for a bad
winter.' Now you've seen their face and could
identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold
out your hands in front of you and yell STOP! or STAY BACK!
Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave
a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be
afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY
target.
&nb sp; 12) If you carry pepper spray (this
instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him
wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it
out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't
beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If
you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the
attacker either under the Arm (between the elbow and armpit)
OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a
class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch
on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset
she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the
>& gt; guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places
as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for
the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience
that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful.
You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him
want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a
lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of
there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to
you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as
possible with as m uch pressure pushing down on them as
possible. The instructor did it to me without using much
pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles
cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear
still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take
someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior,
don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
You may feel a little silly at the time,
but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is
the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to
use it, do!
2. Learned this from a tourist guide in
New Orleans : If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse,
DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are
that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than
you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN
THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk
of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm
out the h*** and start waving like crazy. The driver
won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved
lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into
their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc, and just
sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.)
DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and
this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the
passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where
to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND
LEAVE.
a. If someone is in the car with a gun to
your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF!
Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the
car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the
back seat they will get th e worst of it. As soon as the car
crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find
your body in a remote location.
5 A few notes about getting into your car
in a parking lot or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into
your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van,
enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers
attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while
the women are attempting to get into their cars.< BR> C.) Look at the car parked on the
driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side.
If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you
may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a
guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN
SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of
the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and
the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
&n bsp; 7. If the predator has a gun and you are
not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only
hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it
most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a
zigzag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be
sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted
Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated
man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting
women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked
'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle,
which is when he abducted his next victim.
; 9. Another Safety Point: Someone just
told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the
night before last, and she called the police because it was
late and she thought it was weird. The police told her
'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'
The lady then said that it sounded like
the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that
it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman
said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you
do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a
serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to
coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped
off a bab y. He said they have not verified it, but have had
several calls by women saying that they hear baby's
cries outside their doors when they're home alone at
night.
Please pass this on and DO NOT open the
door for a crying baby --- This should be taken seriously
because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on
America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they
profiled the serial killer in Louisiana .
I'd like you to forward this to all
the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not
dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this
to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers,
wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it
onto them, as well.