Idiot photographer, or frigid model?

[Brittany]

I just checked my email and saw that I had a message from a photographer from my Miss Online account asking to remove him from my friends list. I was puzzled! I have never been asked that by any photographer! I read on.. this is what he wrote me.. :

"... has sent you a message on Miss Online

I am sorry. please remove me from your friends listings. After I accepted you, I viewed your page and read, "...**A note to photographers**

I will NOT shoot nude nor any type of erotic / fetish / bondage photography -- for any price. I value myself as a model with talent that is best shown while maintaining proper (and fashionable) attire. Any woman can pose naked in front of a camera, but I want to do more than that.

Implied or lingerie shoots are negotiable for a reasonable price. I will bring an escort to these shoots.

-- For a full day of shooting: $500
-- For a half day of shooting: $275"

In a creative world where nudity is minor I am sick and tired of all the models who claim on one side that they value staying clothed and think that is the creative way to go. I don't work with closed minded, bible thumping models. Especially when they list something like this!!!!!"

Although I was livid, I responded as tactfully as possible. I wrote that any photographer I have ever worked with loves their art. And, any photographer who has worked with me has never had a problem with me not shooting nude. Am I wrong about this?

How dare he attack me for my own choice! Did I sit there and rant about nude being porn? (like my mom.... ugh..) No. I don't care if someone else gets naked. I just won't. Does it come off that I am snubbing my nose or something?

I hope not. I hope he is just some idiot photographer. But what do you all think..?

[Betty Red {PL Team / Madam}]

How disrespectful!! I am totally shocked and it didn't even happen to me!! Don't let this bring you down - be proud of yourself and all that you believe in. It takes a lot to stand up for what you believe in, and I admire you for that...and I am sure a lot more people do to!

xoxo!

[Monkeyboy]

Forget about this chump Brittany. This is a very unprofessional piece of work. Unfortunately there are more divas out there on the wrong side of the camera all the time. It's your choice how you work. If we're talking about a spread for a major account and you show up drunk or high that's a different story. Hows this guy think he's going to get quality material when he's bullying his talent. I'd love to punch his lights out if not for your sake but for all of us who call ourselves professionals.

[NolaChick™ {Madam}]

WOW. I don't shoot nudes and I have never been made to feel bad about that! "Bible thumping"? Hardly. Just like there are runway models and catalog models, there are nude models, lingerie models, etc. That is so ridiculous that he would even make such a stupid comment about your work. He is definitely an idiot.

[Tura Katana]

Wow does he have a rod up his ass! He has no right saying that to you, I'm the same way and i know other models that are the same way. If you don't want to pose nude then u have the right to refuse that type of offer.

[Brittany]

Thanks guys! That really makes me feel a lot better..! I was mad about it, but after reading all your responses, I realize that I just need to write him off, forget about him.. it's not likely I'll ever work with him anyway :)

You guys are awesome.. thanks again :D

<3 <3

NolaChick said:

WOW. I don't shoot nudes and I have never been made to feel bad about that! "Bible thumping"? Hardly. Just like there are runway models and catalog models, there are nude models, lingerie models, etc. That is so ridiculous that he would even make such a stupid comment about your work. He is definitely an idiot.

[Retrodolls Pinup Photography]

damn

[Ruby DeVille]

Seriously, I don't shoot nude, and If anything I have been praised for my choices. I think anyone who is willing to call out a model in this fashion is obviously defensive and probably masking something. Heres to being professional .. nude or not!

[Beth @ Rebelle Photo]

thats horrible! as a photographer i am only willing to take it as far as the model is comfortable with. if i have a specific concept/idea in mind and i ask the model if she is willing to do it and she says no, then i move on to something else with her and find someone that might be willing to do it. its really that simple. why make someone uncomfortable, or put them in a place that would compromise their ethics/integrity. i wouldnt want someone to do that to me. and furthermore! how dare he say "bible-thumping models!" im not a religious person, but i certainly wouldnt attack anyone for their particular religious, or non-religious, beliefs either... who does this person think he is??
good for you, for standing your ground and letting him know!
b.

and why didnt he READ your page before he added you anyway, he could have avoided the whole situation..

[Cassie Wanda]

Couldn't he have just deleted you? I don't know that website but it seems that if he was offended that he'd just delete you. Seems like he went out of his way to make you feel bad. :-/

[Ruby DeVille]

i have a two and a half year old little girl as well.. i agree with cherry.. he's hiding his own internal perverseness. he wouldn't be so defensive otherwise!

[RetroModelSari]

I wouldn´t just remove him - I´d kick him out of the list!

Everyone has a free choice what sort of pics he and she wants to do. IF someone is just interested in nudes there are enough models that happily cover that field. And that´s it.

I had a situation when I wanted to start up with modelling that almost made me quit straight away. I had sended that photographer my pics and meassures and wrote in my email that I wanna do fashion to lingerie pics. So we met up in a bar so he could show me some of his pics and talk aout the possibilities of shooting together. There he told me I was fat (I weighed way less back than that I do nowadays and wore clothing size S-M which I wouldn´t consider as fat at all) so I should do nude modelling instead. There is no need to mention that I didn´t agree and didn´t work with him at all. I was so pissed of since after all he had known what I look like and what sort of pics I wanted to do anyway. Some people are just dumb. And want to take advantage of you. He sounds like just that kind of guy. Ignore him and move on. He´s not worth it.

[Amanda]

Wow..
How dare he? You have a personal choice not to shoot nude and he has to disrespect you for that? You aren't saying anything bad about anyone that does shoot nude, model or photographer. Yes I think he is just upset that he wouldn't be getting his jollies from shooting you nude. What a douche. I would just take him off your friends list and forget about him. I wouldn't reply to him or anything. That would just add more to the fire and just like Retro said, he isn't worth it.