soulmates/twin souls

[Raven Foxx]

It's an interesting idea to think about the fact that there is someone out there that is specifically suited to be your life mate. I gathered a few ideas from different sources that romantize these specific trains of thought. I believe that people can be happy and make for themselves a decent life even if they never come across "the one." But just for arguments sake, imagine how a partnership could be if these principles were the norm in your relationship instead of the exception.

Thomas Moore, in his book Soul Mates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship, page xvii, describes a soul mate as "someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life."

Richard Bach describes soul mates as "A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. "

Two of the greatest poets of all time, Elizabeth Barrett and Robert Browning were husband and wife. To literature novices, Elizabeth is the author of the immortal poem "How Do I Love Thee, Let me count the ways......" They are twin souls. It is said their friends could feel the aura of their undying love and incredible chemistry even while entering their house. Their love is so pure that the ambience of their dwelling retained a trace of their bond. It was such a beautiful, loving marriage, already immortalized in song and poetry. And their friends could feel their love radiating in the very air! Oh, such love!

How will you know you have met your twin? Here are some symptoms given by others who have had the experience:

*Chances are you've met through a set of unusual circumstances...totally unplanned and unexpected
* There is an instantaneous feeling that you have known the other before
* You felt an immediate and deep connection for one another
* There is an electrifying feeling between the two of you that words can't describe
* The relationship is immediate, as though no time had been lost since you were last together
* It feels as though you had never lived before reunion occured
* You feel a deep sense of unity that you've never known before
* It brings on feelings you never thought possible
*The two of you are inseparable
* When you look into each other's eyes, time and space have no meaning
* There are no barriers between the two of you, the relationship is totally open
* Your conversations seem to go on forever
* The two of you have a strong urge to serve humanity in some deep & meaningful way
* You give to the other and never think of receiving in return
* there is a special sacredness to your relationship that transcends anything you've ever experienced before.
*your sexuality with one another is a sacred act that celebrates the unconditional love you have for one another
* You experience a sense of completeness that is without comparison
* You still have conflict but the two of you resolve it with total forgiveness and unconditional love

So, what do you think? Sounds like a fairy tale doesn't it? To good to be true? But what if...what if there are people out there that this is truly what their relationship is like. Has anyone seen or been around couples that you could just feel the aura of love around them? I'd love to hear your stories.

[Anita Fixx]

Thanks for the nice reply to my comment...I hope you're right. Although I don't see much if ANY beauty in the outside world..oh well, at least there's the interior one! : )

[Filmmonkey]

I've enjoyed reading your blogs. I have no idea whether or not soul mates exist or if it's just a matter of commitment and work.
But you definitely sound very happy which is great news.

[Raven Foxx]

I used to feel that same way Anita, until it happened to me for real. I think the trick is that when you are emotionally ready to welcome this type of relationship (and the other is too) then you are brought together. Don't give up...there is a whole world of beauty out there to match the beauty inside. :)

[Anita Fixx]

Very interesting stuff to think about. I used to believe in the "there's one person for everyone" myth...I was VERY naive. I don't think sou mates really exist like they do in fiction. I've never been in a relationship or seen a couple that was that special and inseparable. The fact is humans aren't even monogamous! And most people are in relationships just so they don't have to be alone..even if it's an abusive one! Waste of time in my opinion. Anyway I doubt I'll find a "soul mate" now... I'd love to but it seems unlikely. I can't even find a guy to go on a couple of fun dates with in this town. : ( Never mind having a conversation that goes on forever...I can hardly talk to most people..really tough to find that "connection" or whatever. But it's different for everyone I guess.

[Poppy Fields]

There is a poem by Leonard Cohen, called "You Have the Lovers", that always reminds me of the concept of soul mates; of the intense, all-consuming connection it is supposed to be.

[Raven Foxx]

You know I was reading about how soul mates can be something as simple as a mother/child relationship or even best friends. It's the twin souls that are a different kind of bond.

[Poppy Fields]

(Hey you! How's things?) In my experience, your soul mate is not necessarily your life mate, as painful as that may be (OMGPAINFUL). Sometimes, now just isn't the right lifetime. I read a description once that I really like: rather than being twin souls, soul mates are one soul, sharing two bodies.