Idiot photographer, or frigid model?

[Brittany]

I just checked my email and saw that I had a message from a photographer from my Miss Online account asking to remove him from my friends list. I was puzzled! I have never been asked that by any photographer! I read on.. this is what he wrote me.. :

"... has sent you a message on Miss Online

I am sorry. please remove me from your friends listings. After I accepted you, I viewed your page and read, "...**A note to photographers**

I will NOT shoot nude nor any type of erotic / fetish / bondage photography -- for any price. I value myself as a model with talent that is best shown while maintaining proper (and fashionable) attire. Any woman can pose naked in front of a camera, but I want to do more than that.

Implied or lingerie shoots are negotiable for a reasonable price. I will bring an escort to these shoots.

-- For a full day of shooting: $500
-- For a half day of shooting: $275"

In a creative world where nudity is minor I am sick and tired of all the models who claim on one side that they value staying clothed and think that is the creative way to go. I don't work with closed minded, bible thumping models. Especially when they list something like this!!!!!"

Although I was livid, I responded as tactfully as possible. I wrote that any photographer I have ever worked with loves their art. And, any photographer who has worked with me has never had a problem with me not shooting nude. Am I wrong about this?

How dare he attack me for my own choice! Did I sit there and rant about nude being porn? (like my mom.... ugh..) No. I don't care if someone else gets naked. I just won't. Does it come off that I am snubbing my nose or something?

I hope not. I hope he is just some idiot photographer. But what do you all think..?

[Amanda Brooks]

I'm sorry that people feel the need to give unsolicited lectures and attacks. I'll never understand it. It's not like you put up a banner reading: "please read my opinions and give me your judgements...please."

As a photographer who shoots nudes and not so nudes and practically nun-like shots...beauty is beauty. If the model isn't comfortable it shows in the eyes...the eyes are the most important...not the twins. I also want to say as a female photographer, that this guy is the type that tends to give male photographers a bad name (which is so, so unfair and unwarranted) as his aggressive behavior is what makes a lot of women nervous. It's unfortunate that there are those types out there.

[Edson Carlos]

Just to clarify, this didn't happen on PL ;)

Malice In Wonderland said:

I'm not sure why everyone is all that suprised that some random guy on-line would be an a******. Sure the guy was out of line and that sucks. It shouldn't happen. But let's be honest...there's a bunch of really good looking women on this site. Are you really not used to meeting that guy in the bar, on the street, etc., that makes an out of line comment? Well this jerk just happened to be on-line and put it in writing. You can't take personally when some random jerk decides to try to make you feel bad for his own personal enjoyment (or whatever other reason they may have that I will never understand). Who cares. F*** him. He's not part of your life and he's no one you will probably ever meet. What really matters is your own opinion of yourself. You're never going to please everyone. Why bother trying?

[Jian Bastille]

He's a little assuming, no great loss on your part.

[Malice In Wonderland]

Didn't think it was. I've been on Model Mayhem long enough to know what type of people you can run into on there. Part of the reason I'll rarely do TFP with anyone but friends anymore. I actually had one photographer literally shoving my limbs into the poses he wanted. ANd I suppose all things considered that's not even that bad.

Daddy Cool said:

Just to clarify, this didn't happen on PL ;)

Malice In Wonderland said:

I'm not sure why everyone is all that suprised that some random guy on-line would be an a******. Sure the guy was out of line and that sucks. It shouldn't happen. But let's be honest...there's a bunch of really good looking women on this site. Are you really not used to meeting that guy in the bar, on the street, etc., that makes an out of line comment? Well this jerk just happened to be on-line and put it in writing. You can't take personally when some random jerk decides to try to make you feel bad for his own personal enjoyment (or whatever other reason they may have that I will never understand). Who cares. F*** him. He's not part of your life and he's no one you will probably ever meet. What really matters is your own opinion of yourself. You're never going to please everyone. Why bother trying?

[Soda Shop Sue]

that is harsh....

[Natalie Alvarado]

IDIOT PHOTOGRAPHER!!!

[Shane Michael Karl]

I think it does take confidence and bravery to be naked in front of he camera.
But I also think it takes talent and some artistic ability be sexy with clothes on too.

I think that any guy who wants to take naked pics of women should first get a set of naked pics taken of himself then post it for the entire world to see. I think it would give the photographers a new perspective in creating that kind of art and maybe weed out the disrespectful men.

I think as a guy I love to do some kind of nude artistic kind of shoot. I'm defiantly no male model (my body is kinda flaby and I got stretch marks lol) but I love the idea of being a part of an artistic work. I'd like to inspire art instead of being behind the canvas or the sketch pad just for a change.

He should respect your choice to do what you feel comfortable doing.
Having models pose for you is a privilege not a right :)